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Emotions and men : A taboo ©

From the starting of this universe, men are taught to hide their emotions. They are not allowed to spit out what they are feeling whether it's sadness or feeling of fear. They are taught to be a robot in a human body. Emotionless. Ruthless. And if a man expresses his emotion he is called gay or ladyboy(transsexual) as if men don't have emotion. But they do have emotions and most of the time they fear to speak out their problems and show their real emotions just because they are "real men". Men are not bounded to not to show their emotions but the society rarely understands a men's emotion.
     There is a common stereotype that men should not show their emotions and that "real men" do not cry or get upset and if they do so they are weak and not so "MANLY". Men get judged if they show their real emotions. You are weak if you cry. You are weak if you have fear of height. You are weak if you are "EMOTIONAL".


   "Emotions doesn't suit men", I have heard it many times and not so surprisingly, from women. And when questioned why, the simple answer is-"because men are macho and they are bound to not express themselves". Men are human too subjected to the same stress of life just like women. They also go through the tension of work, relationships, and many other things. Women can cry and let their emotion regurgitate because they have all the rights to do so but on the other hand if a man breakout and cry, they didn't get emotional support, which is much needed at the time, rather they got mocked with words like- " You are acting like girls", "you're being a Pu**y", and many such lines.
     Men are taught to believe sensitivity is synonymous with weakness but if men don’t know how to name their emotions, the fear and anxiety that they feel make them want to explode.
     sensing more, feeling more, experiencing more, understanding more, interacting with the world more, that is a strength, an advantage, not something to be ashamed of.
Boys are taught to be ashamed of the emotions they experience, so they grow into men who are both emotionally confused and in denial.Emotions aren’t meant to be suppressed. They don’t necessarily need to be paraded for everyone else to see, even though there isn’t anything intrinsically wrong with that, but they ought to be accepted and understood. Otherwise, the build-up can kill you.
  The world looks down on emotional men, on men with feelings, on men who express these feelings openly. The world is biased towards guys that cry, that overthink, that feel. It becomes taboo if you are a dude who does these supposed ‘girly’ things. You are considered weak for being so sensitive but the world is wrong.
   Men who are emotional are not the failure, they actually are the most strong men living in the universe. A man who is emotional is a man who is bold. He’s unafraid. He’s confident in who he is and he has no problem fighting the stereotype. An emotional man is a man who is secure in himself. He loves loving others, and he loves others the only way he knows how: wholeheartedly and openly.He doesn’t hesitate, doesn’t change, doesn’t hold back. And this makes him an incredible man.

       "Don't Hide behind the mask of emotional strongness, if you are feeling like crying, go cry. if you are afraid of something,don't hide."
   

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